26/11/2024
MARRIAGE: IT BEGINS AND END WITH THE MAN
I know a lot of men would not like to hear this truth but a successful marriage begins and ends with the man. The man is the one who created a new family so the bulk of the marital success begins with him and if the marriage is going to fail it would also begin from him. That is why the man is the head of the family.
Sadly, most men want to bear the head of the family but do not want to accept the great responsibility that comes with it. They believe that it is the responsibility of the woman to bear the weight of the challenges that marriage brings. The funny thing is most of these challenges they expect the women to bear, are problems caused by them; the men, yet they expect their wives to remain with them forever and bear the weight of their irresponsibility and poor leadership skills. The woman can only bear it for so long before she decides to stand up for herself and say enough is enough.
As if their being irresponsible and terrible leadership was not enough salt to injury on its own, they will now blackmail and label a woman who decides to choose herself rather than continue to sacrifice herself and her sanity for a man unworthy of her as a bad woman/wife and mother as if if the tables were to be turned they (the men) will accept it and continue to endure in the marriage.
Men know that whatever you put in your marriage is what you will receive. If you put in love, respect, loyalty, fidelity, transparency, honesty, kindness, commitment etc. in your marriage, you will reap the benefit from your wife times 10 but if you choose not to put in any of these or you just do the bare minimum in your marriage, know that your wife will also return the energy times 10.
A word is enough for the wise!!!
Peach&Pear Counsel
