19/04/2025
Uhmmm.
A brother once told me about a man who took a second wife. He has two 3-bedroom flats in the same compound and each of the wives occupied one of the flats. Right from the day of the nikkah, com see fight. The first wife will verbally attack the second, the second will equally throw her own verbal punches without restraint. Next is "gbas-gbos."
Close to 2years after the nikkah, the first wife got sick and died. Tears of sorrow greeted the once noisy home, but life returned to normalcy after days of mourning.
A year after, the husband took ill and died within a month.
The remaining 1 wife (second) was unconsolable. She cried her eyes out with insidious sorrowful lamentations.
Just few months after, the last wife was announced dead after a brief illness. *All of them died within three years.* The house is now empty. There's nobody to fight for anything again.
Takeaways:
1. Life is very transient. Don't fight bitter over what Allah has permitted and decreed.
2. Focus on what will take you closer to Allah. Be patient when you are tried.
3. One of the greatest trial for most women is polygamy. It's a tough and emotionally challenging, but acceptance of Allah's decree, faith and patience will enable you get your full reward.
4. Husbands must be patient and understanding and help their wives to psychologically and emotionally heal up during this trying times.
5. Know that polygamy will and has surely led some people to Jahannam while some others have and will earn their Jannah through it.
6. If you aren't in yet, pray to Allah to keep you steadfast if it's decreed for your husband. If you are already in, pray for more patience, be the best wife you can be and hope for your reward with Allah.
7. Don't loose your hereafter out of excessive love. Nobody and nothing is worth loosing your hereafter for.
8. Don't allow people to misguide you. Many will tell you what they can't do if found in the same situation. Look for
wise, God fearing
people to console
you in your trying
times.
9. Remember, men are created into trials and the best amongst men are those who are patient and endure with faith & perseverance for Allah's sake.
May Allah grant us ease in our affairs, forgive us our sins and grant us the best of bliss in the afterlife.
