Confession Corner

30/12/2025

?Aoa,
?I'm 19M.
?I'm in depression, i need you'll advices.
?14JUNE.
?That's the day i will never forget in my life.
?Because my mother has passed away
?And i think I'm responsible for that because in that day we goes to docter because she was not feeling well,
?And the doctor gives some tables kind of relaxing tablets,
?Then we came to home, One of my friend was waiting for me outside of my house and he was in hurry.
?I has gone to home and gives the medicine to my brother and I saw her she was looking normal and I have left the house and goes with my friend.
?After 30mins my brother has called me that mom has fall in sleep (behosh)
?And he says me get a doctor hurry and take him in here.
?I was confused and i have goes to a doctor and says its a emergency my mother has fall in sleep (behosh) you have to come with me now but he was not free he say's give me half a hour i will come with you and i has waited for him when he has been free and i have taken him to my house in that time i has seen my mother her body Turing to purple.
?Ade the doctor said the she has passed away.
?I has gone to her and rubbed her feet and trying to wake her but she has already passed away.
?I was looking Besides and i see my father and sister and my aunt was crying,
?But i was still trying to wake her, and i saw my sister she was Turing her neck.
?I have run to my room and cry, why she has left us so early.
?After some Mientus i came back from my room and goes to my father to ask what's happened.
?And he say's she was normal we were talking and she say's to him that she have to take the pill and dad has give the pills to her and then she was talking about her day and suddenly she has fall in sleep (behosh) and my father hold her and lay her down.
?But that's the time she has passed away.
?And i have checked which pill she has taken and i saw she has taken the heart calming pill twis. But she has to take half of that pill but take 2pill.
?Then i remember my mistake to not telling my brother what pill she has to take and how many.
?I feel guilty for that day.
?I blame my self for her death.
?Now its been more then six months,
?I weekly visit her,
?And said how my week has been.
?But still i blame her death for my self.
?
?MAY ALLAH TAKE HER TO JANNA
?(Ameen)

29/12/2025

پلیز مجھے بہتر گائیڈ کرے میں اتنی سمجھدار نہیں شاید۔ میرے ہزبنڈ آوٹ اوف کنڑی تھے وہیں شادی کر رکھی تھی تین سال سے میرے سے کوئی رابطہ نہیں تھاشادی کے بعد اپنا حصہ لے کر اور کچھ میرا گولڈ بیچ کر چلے گئے تھے۔ کچھ سال آتے رہے۔ پھر کال کرنا بھی بند کر دیا میں اپنے جیٹھ کے گھر رہتی تھی خرچ نہیں بھیجتے تھے جس کی وجہ سے میری جیٹھانی ہر وقت غصے میں رہتی تھی میں جب بھی کوشش کی اس انسان کو کال کر کے احساس دلایا جائے۔ اس کی بیوی مجھے گالیاں دیتی تھی کہ میں کال کیوں کرتی ہوں۔ بیوی بھی پاکستانی ہےناروے میں رہتی تھی اسی سے شادی ہوئی تھی۔ میرے جیٹھ نے بھی کہا تھا بیوی بچوں کا خرچہ بھیجا کرو لیکن وہ کہتے تھے میں چھوڑ دینا ہے مجھے لگتا تھا بیوی کو سنانے کے لیے کہتے ہوں گے لیکن ایک دن کال کر کےطلاق بھی دے دی اور جیٹھ کو بولا ان کو ان کے بھائی کے گھر بھیج دو میرا کوئی رشتہ نہیں۔ مجھے بتایا بھی نہیں کہ میرا قصور کیا ہے میں تو دوسری شادی پر بھی زیادہ غصہ نہیں کیا تھا میرا تھا بھی کوئی نہیں جو میرے لیے لڑتا۔ میری جىٹھانی اکثر بولتی رہتی تھی کہ وہ کہتا ہے تم اسے شروع دن سے پسند نہیں تھی۔ تو پھر تین بچے کس لیے پیدا کیے تبھی چھوڑ دیتے۔ میں جب اپنے ابو کے گھر آئی ابونے کہا کہ بچوں کو واپس چھوڑ کر آو میری امی نہیں ہیں ایک بہن بیوہ ہے جو اپنے گھر ہی رہتی ہے ایک بھائی اور بھابھی اور ابو ساتھ رہتے ہیں میں اپنے ابو کے دباؤ میں بچوں کو جیٹھ کے گھر بھجوایا ابو خود چھوڑ آئے تھے۔ لیکن ایک دن بھی چین سے نہیں رہی تھی پھر میں خود اپنے ابو کی مخالفت کے باوجود واپس لے آئی۔ مجھے بے حد زلیل کیا گیا ہے میرے ابو کچھ نہیں کہتے بس وہ گھر والوں کے دباؤ میں ہیں کیونکہ وہ خود کام نہیں کرتے بیمار رہتے ہیں۔ میں آن لائن کام کے لیے ایک بھائی کو آٹھ ہزار بھی کسی طرح ارینج کر کے دیے انہوں نے بھی کچھ نہیں بتایا اور پیسے بھی کھا گے۔ ہم بھوکے مر جائیں گے پلیز مجھے کوئی ایسا طریقہ بتا دیں جس سے میں اپنے بچوں کو آسانی سے پال سکوں ایسا کوئی کام جو موبائل سے کر سکوں۔ ہمارا کوئی نہیں ہے میرے ابو میرا بھائی مجھے کوئی سپورٹ نہیں کر رہا۔ ایسے مستقبل کا سوچ سوچ کر میرا دم گھٹتا ہے۔ اس لیے اتنی تفصیل سے لکھ رہی ہوں کہ مجھے کوئی رستہ سمجھ نہیں آرہا پلیز مجھے حوصلہ اور ہمت ضرور دیجیئے گا تاکہ اپنے بچوں کی زندگی بہتر بنا سکوں شکریہ

27/12/2025

My husband was forced into marriage and now lives in silence.
Aoa. I hope you are fine. I am seeking advice from married brothers and sisters because I am confused and scared.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He is my khala’s son. This marriage was forced on him. I was about to marry someone else, but 2 days before the wedding, he refused. At that time, we were living in a village where such situations bring shame and become a serious issue for the whole family like issues in other siblings proposals.

Because of this, my parents begged my khala and khalu to marry me to their son, who is 4 years younger than me. I was 26 years old, and my husband was 22 and still studying. My khala and khalu forced him to agree to this marriage. He did not want it at all, but because of family pressure, he had no choice. My khala’s daughter is married to my elder brother, so both families were already closely connected. Because of this relationship, my parents insisted more, and my khala and khalu felt they could not refuse without creating conflict and shame in the family. My husband was young, dependent on his parents, and his wishes were ignored.

On the first night of our marriage, my husband told me clearly that this marriage was not his decision. He said he had been forced and that he would never accept me as his wife. From that day, his behavior showed that he meant what he said.

After 1 year of marriage, we moved from the village to the city because he got a job, and I moved with him hoping things might improve. During that time and even before, he never talked to me and never touched me. During the first year, we lived in the same room, but there was no relationship between us. Now it has been five years, and nothing has changed.

I thought that maybe he avoided me because he was more educated than me. Mashallah, he is the first person in both his family and mine to study beyond class 12. He completed his MS degree and is now doing MPhil. Hoping to improve myself and reduce the gap between us, I continued my studies, and Alhamdulillah, I completed my BS degree. Even after this, nothing changed.

He does not insult me or hurt me physically or emotionally. He simply treats me like a stranger. In these five years, he has never demanded anything from me. I tried everything, crying, begging, getting angry, and trying to get close to him, but nothing worked.

Over time, he completely cut off contact with everyone. He does not talk to his parents, his elder siblings, or anyone else. His parents sometimes call me crying and beg me to let them hear his voice, but he refuses. His elder siblings also want to meet him and ask forgiveness for pressuring him into this marriage, but he refuses to see or speak to them. He has no friends and does not go out. He goes to work, comes home, and stays in his room. He does not attend family events, but he does not stop me from going.

For the past few months, his health has also not been well. I have seen him vomit something that looked like blood, which scared me deeply. When I tried to ask him what was wrong, he refused to explain anything. He goes to doctors alone, takes medicines on his own, and does not share any details with me. He does everything related to his health by himself and does not allow me to help or even ask questions. Watching him suffer silently like this has increased my fear and helplessness.

2 months ago, I attended a family gathering, and his parents again begged me to ask him to reconcile with them. After that, my own parents broke down many times. They openly admit that forcing this marriage was the biggest mistake of their lives. They feel deep shame when they see my husband’s condition and often say that they ruined an innocent person’s life because of fear of society and village pressure. My parents now avoid family gatherings because they feel embarrassed and guilty. Sometimes they cry and apologize to me and say they wish they could undo everything.

Many times, they ask me to take khula and live my life, saying they will support me fully. But even while saying this, they feel ashamed of what they did and blame themselves for the pain my husband is living with. Seeing their regret makes my own guilt even heavier.

I feel ashamed when I see my husband living like this. I feel that my parents and I destroyed the life of a person who was once happy. I asked him to see a psychologist, and he agreed. He attended around twelve sessions but did not speak during any of them. In the end, the psychologist said therapy was not working because he did not want to talk. She said it appears that he has lost interest in life and is just passing his days.

I regret everything that happened. I regret the pressure, the pain, and the damage this marriage caused him. I want to say clearly that I am willing to stay with him for the rest of my life, not because of guilt or fear or social pressure, but because I truly love him. I do not expect anything from him except love. I still hope that one day he may forgive me and understand that I never wanted to hurt him.

I love him sincerely, even if he never returns that love. I try to respect his silence and his space. I am asking for advice from people who have experience in marriage and life. What more can I do for a person who has completely closed himself off. How can I support him without causing more pain. Is there anything else I should try, or should I continue to wait patiently and pray. Any sincere advice will be appreciated.

25/12/2025

Please hide my identity Mjhe serius advice chahiye
Mai ak trauma m hn mera kahi rishta hua tha woh ur ma bht tym se ak dsre ko psnd krty thy uski family ne mra jena hrm kr rkha tha uski behne meri mother se itni battamezi kra krti the ma bardasht krti g*e khr bht muskilo k bd hmara rishta hogye last year 6 months b yehi sb chla bt tk pakki ni hrhi the aur wh lrka bhale mra sth deta tha hr jaga khra rha lyljn jb ko lkr serius nai tha meri family ne kuch ni dekha tha na ghr na job na family bs meri khushi k lye han krdi thw lykn phr b unki behne mera jena hrm kr rkhti the ak din uski behn ne mujhe sb ka samne zalel kia jispe meri mother ne guse ma phone p inkr krdia ye soch kr k ye lg aingay mgr unhone kha inkar to inkr chahe dono mr b jai ham ni kry gay ma itna roi itni mafi mangi sb kia ma itne depression na chli g*e hun ma uske bina nai reh skti ak waqt tk usne mera sath dia magr ab kehta h kuch nai hoskta hmari nai hoge bs yehi kehta h ka nai hoskti hmari aur mujhe regret krta h ka meri waja se sb hua ma bht regret ma hun ka mainw kisi ki life barbad krdi hai Woh kehta h ma kuch nai karta meri family ab kabhi razi nai hoge mujhe smjh nai ata objection tou meri family ko hona chahiye tha is sb pe bh sare mujhe kasoor wat kr rhy ka meri waja se sb hua han ma manti hun ma bht ziada sensitive the usko lekr magr meny usse bina mtlb ka mohabt kari ma kisi aur se krna nai chahti woh kehta h ham aesi rehte hein bat krty rhy gay milty rhy gay ap log advice dein ma kia karun

25/12/2025

I am 36 M and I got married against my will. When I was a child, my father arranged my engagement to my uncle’s daughter. When I grew up and learned about it, I refused for several reasons. First, I knew we were not mentally compatible: she lived in a village, while I had always lived in Karachi (later on i shifted to Isb) . Second, she stopped studying after matric, while I was studying at a top engineering university. Third, I loved someone else — although that was not the main issue, because even at that time I believed that not getting the person you love hurts less than marrying someone you do not want to marry.
When I was 29 and my family again started discussing my marriage, I clearly told everyone that I could not marry her just because our parents had decided it in our childhood. I even spoke to my uncle directly, but he involved the whole family and created pressure, saying the decision could not be changed. During that time, my grandmother was hospitalized, and I was emotionally forced from all sides. I repeatedly said that this was unfair not only to me but also to her, because she would have to live with a man who was not interested in her. My grandmother even offered, on behalf of my uncle’s family, that I would be allowed to have a second marriage later, knowing very well that I would never do that. I also discussed the matter directly with the girl, but she asked me to speak with her and my parents instead, which I had already done — without success.
Eventually, due to extreme family pressure and the poor health of my uncle and grandmother, I lost hope and agreed to the marriage. After marriage, I genuinely tried my best to adjust and be involved with her, even though I never felt any emotional attachment. I still cared for her, and now, after six years, we have two children; however, during all these years I have never felt love or connection with her. We hardly talk except about household matters or the children. She has also never tried to communicate, engage with me, or dress well despite my repeated requests.
I have repeatedly told her that whatever has happened cannot be changed now, and that our only option is to try to make each other happy. I know that I may never be able to love her, but I respect her a lot and care for her at every step, because I know none of this was her fault — it was the decision of our parents. Still, she has not made any effort to improve things. After marriage, I even tried to enroll her in college so she could continue her studies, but she refused. During any argument, she immediately involves her brothers and mother, which I dislike the most.
For the last two years, things have become worse. We talk very little, and when I look at her, I do not feel love. I don’t know what to do or how this situation can improve. I am not in favor of a second marriage, because I know it would directly affect my children, and I cannot let that happen. My whole world now revolves around my kids, but I feel that my life has been ruined. I need genuine recommendations on how to improve things and also am I thinking wisely about my kids.

25/12/2025

Please hide my identity. I'm a single parent having 2 kids, I'm a freelancer. I met a lot of persons on social media regarding online work. I met a person who was a skills learning institute owner. He hired me as a script writer. Unfortunately, we couldn't forward in terms of official work, but he is really a nice guy. I summed up his gesture, way of talk; in short, I liked him. Then, after a bit of time, the official talk had cut off, and after a long time, I texted him just to know his hal ehwal. He said, "I'm just thinking of you, want to meet you." I refused due to my environment and family traditions. I never met anyone before in my life like this. He said, "I knew it. Actually, I want to talk to you. I'm in trouble." When I asked him what's the trouble, he told me he wants physical relation, nothing else. When I talked to him on a phone call, he seemed in a desperate condition. His voice was still calm and smooth. He talked to me nicely and never forced me, even to talk to me about this thing. I rejected his wish using harsh words. I just want to know what was this? Is he really a nice guy, or was I at fault in recognizing him? Now, after that conversation, we never talk again, but it's hitting me that the person who was liked by me, how can he say to me like this? Is this really the existence of that trauma stage of any of them?

In short I'm missing his absence..... Is this seems like I'm not a good girl 😞?

Mera Dil kio usi se bat krna chah Raha ....I'm stopping myself to do this but I'm feeling helpless ....
Dil wo kio Chahta h Jo ho ni skta ....i still don't want any type of physical relation but then why I'm waiting for to talk to him ....
Plz don't make fun ...
I'm feeling desperately helpless...

25/12/2025

السلام علیکم
There is a person whose intentions are not sincere. He has openly stated, both behind my back and to my face, that he wants to trap me and has said many other malicious things as well. Because of this, I feel extremely uncomfortable. We have had one or two heated verbal exchanges. He is very sharp and manipulative
He presents me as the wrongdoer while portraying himself as righteous.

He is also around 10–15 years older than me. He is divorced, and using women is something he openly does. In fact, he says in front of others that he will use me as well, which is why he is trying to trap me.

Professionally, we are both doctors. He has become obsessed with this issue. Now he is going for Umrah and is telling everyone that he will complain to Allah there, present himself at the Prophet’s (ﷺ) resting place, raise his hands repeatedly, and pray for my destruction. He says he will ensure my downfall, that I have treated him very badly, and that unless I beg him for forgiveness, I will remain humiliated for the rest of my life.

When I tell him that he has also committed many injustices against me, he responds by saying that he has already been forgiven, that this is why he has been invited (to Umrah), and that he does not need to ask for forgiveness because his absolution has already been granted.

I am deeply fearful of Allah. I know that prayers are accepted in those sacred places. My question is: if he is in the wrong and yet makes such prayers with ill intention, will they still be accepted? Everyone knows that his intentions are not pure. He constantly uses these words in front of me, saying, مجھ سے سب کے سامنے معافی مانگو , otherwise you will be ruined.

I am extremely distressed and anxious
Please advise me and pray for me that Allah keeps me steadfast and protects me from his harm

23/10/2025