20/06/2026
There’s a phrase that’s been all over the internet for a few years now. People say "I'm just a girl" as a joke, usually right after doing something a little embarrassing, like scraping a car or completely forgetting how taxes work, usually with that No Doubt song playing in the background. It’s “funny” because it reduces a whole identity down into one easy excuse. It makes girlhood look helpless, a little silly, and not really ready for the real world. "sowwy guys, i’m just a girl..." oh please, people need to shut up and listen to the rest of the damn song. Gwen Stefani wrote it because she was incredibly frustrated with being boxed in by other people's low expectations just because she was a woman. The internet trend basically flipped the song's entire point on its head, turning a complaint about being underestimated into an excuse to just live down to that underestimation, all set to the exact same music.
And honestly, that is exactly why I prefer book characters to many version of girls we see on social media. The women in these books never fit into the shape the internet trend is joking about. Some of them want things they were told not to want, some have minds that work in ways no one around them understands, and others spend years pretending to be normal just to fit in until they finally snap. None of them are "just a girl" in the way the trend means it. In fact, most of them are much closer to what the original song actually meant because they are women who got put into that box by everyone around them and had to fight their way out of it.
Girlhood was never just one thing, and it was never an excuse either. It just got turned into both because it was easy, and good books refuse to let it stay that way.
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DEAR OLDE BOOKS