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17/02/2018

Our internal world

What is this internal world people speak of?
Some refer to it as our spirit, some refer to it as our soul and some simply refer to it as our true self.
However we decide to refer to it or label it doesn't really matter. What does matter is if we tune into it or not.

There is plenty of evidence out there that demonstrates that when we ignore our inner world we experience less joy, less harmony, less satisfaction and more stress, frustration and discomfort.

For example, have you ever gone to do something that really got you excited and fired up, yet when you've talked to others you have lost interest or become less enthusiastic?

The initial excitement you felt was because whatever it is that got you excited was aligned internally, it connected in some way with your inner world. Motivation and inspiration came from within. Then you expressed your idea, thoughts or plans to another, who did not connect with it and it triggered something in them that rejected or feared your idea.

Your motivation and enthusiasm decreased because your motivation and inspiration shifted from the internal to the external. It was no longer connected to you it became connected to something outside of you.

Now we can choose to listen to others or we could listen to ourselves. That is a decision totally on us. We can take others opinions, suggestions and thoughts into consideration. However, we need to make that decision ourselves, with what feels right internally.

We can blame others for our situation or our decisions. But that would just be giving away our power or control over our situation, lives and happiness.

If we truly want to be happy we must not look externally, we must look inside ourselves to find our happiness.

We must reconnect with ourselves, fall in love with self and honor self.

They say that if you don't respect yourself, you don't truly express respect for others.

If you doubt yourself, you will doubt those around you.

If you don't trust yourself, you will not truly trust others.

And the biggest one yet....

If you don't love yourself you can't love another.

It is widely accepted that what we see in others is a reflection of what we see in ourselves.

If something someone is doing gets to you, stop and look internally and assess what is it about the other person's behavior is bothering you and why. Chances are it's something that you are doing or not doing that is affecting you.

Look inward for your answers, motivation, inspiration and happiness.
Realign your inner world and take back your life on your terms.

What fires you up?
What inspires you?
How have you been giving your happiness, motivation, inspiration and power over your life away?

What do you need to do to take back your life?

Let me know in the comments below and let's start taking our lives back.

Have an awesome week.
Much luv to you all
:-)

06/02/2018

WHY

Why do you get up in the morning, or in some cases don't?
Why do you make the decisions that you make?
Why do you keep doing the things you do?
Why do you want to change some of the things that you do?

Knowing our why helps us get up in the morning and get going.
Knowing our why can help us to do those things that are inconvenient or uncomfortable.
Knowing our why can motivate and inspire us.
Knowing our why can help us make those tough decisions.
Knowing our why helps us to make the decisions that move us in the direction we want to go in.
Knowing our why gives our lives meaning.

It is said that awareness is the first step to change. Knowing what we want or what we don't want can help us to move in the direction we would like our lives to move in.
Our lives are a journey, our why is a destination. Knowing our why gives us a destination, with a destination we can plot a course that we can follow to get there.
Without a destination, we tend to wander from place to place with little purpose and never really knowing if we are getting anywhere. It can feel aimless and lost.
Feeling aimless and lost gets tiring, it utilizes a lot of energy, most of the time going around in circles. It demotivates us because we have no measure or guage to say we are making progress and worst still can lead to addiction and unresourceful behaviors, trying to fill that space inside of us that we would normally fill with pride for a job well done, enjoyment of what we are doing knowing that we are doing something worthwhile and valuable.

Our why needs to be deep, it needs to align with our inner self. It can't be superficial, such as money and acquisition. Money and acquisition are simply tools for achieving our why, they are external to us.
If money and acquisition is important to you, ask yourself the question, why do I need money and why do I need to aquire things?
What will money and acquisition give me?
This will lead you to your deeper, bigger free .

Do you know your why?

Feel free to discuss in the comments below or pm me if you would like to explore this topic further.

Know your why and live a life with meaning.

Have an awesome week.
Much luv to you all
:-)

03/02/2018

Choices

This morning I felt tired and my bed was so comfortable. I wanted to stay in bed just a little longer. My alarm went off to get me up to get ready for my Sunday morning gym session.
I switched off my alarm and laid there staring at the ceiling, contemplating not going to gym and staying in bed and sleeping a little longer.

Then the internal dialog started, "it's OK it's Sunday, you've had a big week, it won't matter if you miss today's gym session".
"But you like going to the gym, especially Sunday's class, it's the hardest".
"But you're tired and getting some rest is more important than going to the gym".
"But if you don't go you will let yourself down and regret it".
"Once you get there you will be fine, you know you will enjoy it, and after an hour of hard work it will be done and you will feel better for going and feel a sense of self-pride because you stuck to your plans and followed through".

Does this scenario sound familiar to anyone. I don't mean the gym, I am referring to the internal dialog, the battle with yourself to commit to the choices you make.

Everything is a choice we make, and these choices are generally made following considerable internal dialog.
We can waste a lot of time fighting with ourselves inside our own head, trying to make a decision and then trying to justify the decisions that we make.

Sometimes the energy used to make decisions and justify them is enough to us towards inactivity.
Sometimes the process of making a decision is so challenging that we choose not to make a decision, or we choose to let the decision make us.
Have you ever been confronted by a situation where you didn't like the choices being offered, or didn't like the effort it was going to take to make or follow through on the decision, so you just said "f**k it, what will be will be". Or you just didn't act because you couldn't decide?
That's letting a decision make you, you have no control over the situation or the outcome. You give away your power and control over the direction your life is going.

Most indecision occurs for three reasons,
Fear of making the wrong decision,
Fear of the commitment to the decision,
And fear of others reactions to the decision.

Most people fear making a decision because they don't know what they want. If they chose one thing they might miss out on the other. Or if they chose one thing and it might not align with what they want or the direction they want their life to go in.
Solution: work out and get clear on what it is you want and what direction you want your life to head.
Of course this doesn't mean you can't do something just for the sheer enjoyment, adventure or challenge, however if this directs your decisions, you have probably made a decision for more adventure and challenge in your life.

Some people fear making a commitment, this is usually connected to feeling like you are stuck with the decision you have made or stuck with the follow through on the decision.
Solution: if you know what you want and are connected with why you want it then nothing is too much of a commitment or hard work. If your decision is based on the direction you want your life to take and you connect the decision with your why, then your motivation to complete any follow up is easier and the feeling of being stuck is reduced.
Also if at any point you don't like the choice you made, you can create another decision to not stay stuck or to not refer to your situation as being stuck. Changing your situation is only another decision away.

Some people fear others reactions to the choices you make. People may laugh or mock you for them. They may be resentful or fearful. They may feel left behind or left out. That's on them, they choose to react and feel the way they wish to react and feel, just as we do.
Solution: We are 100% responsible for our thoughts, feelings and behaviors, own them. Don't give up the power to your happiness trying to keep everyone else happy. Know what you want and make a choice to go after it.

A lot of info for a Sunday morning I know, but don't let life make your decisions, make your decisions about your life.
Take ownership of your experience here on earth and enjoy your journey.

As always if you want to discuss thus or take it further, either comment below or pm me and we can talk.
Thanks all

Until next week, have an awesome week and make some informed directed choices.

Much luv to you all
:-)

27/01/2018

Labels

Part of human existence is the attempt to understand our world.
We examine and analyze the world around us and ours and others experiences.

In our attempt to understand the world and the people within it we tend to label everything.
We create labels for what we do, the things we see and interact with.
We label our experiences and our relationships.
We label ourselves and each other.

For the most part labels improve our lives, for example, could imagine trying to discuss (label) going out (label) for dinner (label), without using labels.
How would you tell someone where you wanted to go without using the label to name the restraunt, let alone the type of food you wanted to eat, who you wanted to go with or describe your experience.
As you see without labels communication would be almost impossible. Let alone trying to live our lives.
So yes label's are extremely valuable in the context of communication and have enormous benefits.

However, labels can also be negative.
We are all aware of the negative labels used in society to discriminate against others or to put things down. Labels are also used to justify and condone all sorts of negative behaviors.

People use labels to put us in a certain position to control, manipulate or weaken us. This is not always done with deliberate intent to harm us.
Well meaning people have labeled us in the past to try and protect us or nurture us. We have also been labeled without the person knowingly doing so. Such as the good boy or girl, the smart one, the caring child, always quiet, etc... I think you get the picture.

Just as harmful are the labels we put on ourselves. Some of which we carry over from childhood or the family or school groups we grew up in. The troubled kid, the distracting kid, school bully, outcast, protector, class clown, etc...

Regardless of where they came from if they no longer serve us, they are no longer resourceful.
In fact they can be quite the opposite, they can be very damaging and allow us to accept less than we deserve or impede our desire to grow.

Why am I discussing labels so early on a Sunday morning?

I am discussing labels because awareness is the first step to resolving an issue.
When we start to identify that we are living and experiencing life through our labels we can examine these labels and work out which ones are resourceful and help you or strengthen you through life. We can also identify which labels are unresourceful and impede your life or hold you back.
You can then decide which labels you want to keep and which you want to change for more resourceful labels that serve you.

The thing about labels is that they are only words.
Words that only have the power that we give to them.
Words we can choose to give power to or choose to change.

Some of the unresourceful labels I have carried that I chose to change and what I chose instead:
Useless - powerful, worthless - valuable, good for nothing - purposeful, trouble - challenger, addict - recovered, shy - reserved, victim - survivor - creator
The list goes on and will continually be examined and revised.
The important fact is understanding that we are not the labels we carry, they are only words use to describe facets of us and we can choose which labels we wish to give power to and which we wish to change.

What are some of the labels you carry?
Which are resourceful and which aren't?
Which labels do you want to change?

Choose your labels wisely.
If you would like to discuss any of this start a conversation in the comments below or pm me.

Have an awesome week.
Much luv to you all
:-)

23/01/2018

To create change in our lives, first we need awareness. We need to know what the problem is, how it is affecting us and take responsibility for the part we play in maintaining the problem. We also need to know how we would want the situation or our lives to be without the problem.

Then we have to believe that we must change it. We must own our responsibility, that is our responsibility to make the changes we want. The changes we want in our world may miraculously manifest themselves and the universe may create change around us, however if we want our lives a certain way we need to create the changes that will create that life.

Then we have to believe we can change it. We all need hope, hope that we can improve our situation. We all have the power within us to create our own lives, sometimes we just lose sight of this. We must believe that we can take control of our lives direction. There are plenty of signs and role models in the world to prove that we can overcome any hurdle or setback and be the creator of our own lives. That doesn't mean we can all become president or super star, it means that we can make the best of our situations and we are only as stuck as we allow ourselves to be.

Personal Story
Growing up I hated myself, my opinion of myself was that I was useless, trouble, broken and a "bad" person to the core.
These beliefs resulted in me isolating myself, physically, psychologically and chemically.
My life was miserable, and I would avoid situations that would be prove otherwise to my beliefs.
I dropped out of school, dropped out of my social circles, dropped out of life. I suffered depression, I self-harmed and even tried to su***de many times.

As I got older and wiser I began acknowledging that I wasn't happy. That I wanted more out of life. I didn't necessarily know what but I knew that I wanted something better.
I acknowledged that I was where I was in life because of the choices I made and a lot of the experiences I had through life where primarily my responsibility, yes bad things happened in my life and I found myself in many unpleasant situations. However, ultimately I chose to put myself or stay in those situations.

That's when I realized that if I wanted to change my life, it was up to me. I needed to make better more resourceful choices. One of those choices was to find someone I could trust and relate to to help guide, reassure and provide feedback along the way. I became aware of my problems which where primarily thinking and belief problems. Poor thoughts and beliefs lead to poor behaviors. I needed a guide to help me gain clarification and direction.

The final piece to the puzzle was to find evidence from other examples of people who have come back from similar situations and created life on their terms. They didn't need to be a perfect match of where I had come from or where I wanted to go. They just needed to be evidence that anyone can create the changes in their own life. I also looked for examples of people who where living the life I wanted. If someone had done it before me then if I committed to it and pushed myself, I could do it too. I built my self worth and learned to value myself. I started collecting small examples and evidence of what I was capable of. Small steps at first, simple things that most people take for granted. Until eventually I pushed myself for bigger. I became a volunteer and put myself out there to socialize. I went back to uni got a degree, got a masters. I pushed myself and received citations and awards. It was all very scary and new, but I kept pushing. Ipushed myself to achieve and proved that I could create the changes in my life that I wanted.

I'm not at the finish line yet and there is so much more I want to do with my life. I am always growing and creating the changes in my life.
I choose to take responsibility for my life.
I choose to create the changes in my life and not let life create changes in me and now I'm loving my life, and doing the things I want to do, the things that are important to me. I'm privileged, I walked my journey and still walking it, and now I get to give back.

Do you choose to take control of your life?
Do you choose to create your life instead of letting life create you?

All you need to do is choose and to commit to those choices.
Commit to yourself.

Much luv to you all
:-)

22/01/2018

In the end there's three things that matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you live?
How deeply did you learn to let go?

22/01/2018

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.

20/01/2018

G'day to you all,
Well here we are Sunday morning again, preparing for another intense work out at the gym.

I hope the past week has been a positive one to you all.
Although you may have faced challenges and things may not have gone exactly the way you would have liked them to go, or maybe they did. That's OK, as positive or negative as your experience was, always remember that time will pass. You are not stuck in any experience that you don't wish to be. Our experience of any given situation is a choice we make.

We can choose to see a half empty glass and long for what is missing or we can choose to see a half full glass and appreciate that which we have.

If we spend our time focused on what we don't have, our experience becomes negative, we give up our happiness and taint our experience of our situation and what we have in front of us.

If we spend our time focused on what we have, our experience becomes one of joy, gratitude and appreciation, ultimately opening up your world to greater happiness.

This is not to say we shouldn't strive for what we don't have. I am not saying that we should settle for what we have or that we shouldn't aim for something greater or for more. What I am saying is don't lose sight of what we have, don't forget to stop and appreciate what we already have and where we are in any given moment.

By all means focus on what you want. The law of attraction states that we manifest in our world that which we focus on. If we focus on the half empty glass, we will manifest a half empty glass in our world. If we focus on the negative aspects of what we are missing out on, we manifest more of those negative aspects, experiences and feelings.

However, if we focus on the positive aspects of what we have we manifest positivity within our experiences. Likewise, if we focus on what we want or how we want to experience any given situation, that is what we manifest into our world.

I once worked with a young man aged in his mid twenties and a double amputee. He had a serious accident which cost him his right arm and his left leg. He was right handed so he lost his ability to write and do most things for himself. The accident was so severe that he was told he was lucky to be alive. In fact he had died several times while trying to save him.
This young man could quite easily have mourned for what he had lost, been angry for his situation. However, he wasn't, he was extremely thankful for his life, thankful for what he still had. He always had a smile on his face and a pleasant word for those around him. Even though he was not always happy, even though his life was challenging and a physical struggle most days.
He chose appreciation and to make the most of what he had.

This is not an isolated story or example, there are hundreds if not thousands of stories like this one out there.

Life is a choice, choose wisely, choose how you want to experience your life. We can't always choose what happens to us but we can always choose how we experience it,
we can choose our attitudes,
we can choose our feelings,
we can choose our behaviors,
and we can choose what we focus on.

Choose to see the beauty in the world and you will see how beautiful the world really is.

Enjoy your Sunday, appreciate what you have and those around you. Have an awesome day and week.

Much luv to you all
:-)

13/01/2018

Good morning all you glorious shining people,

Welcome to another beautiful sunny Gippsland Sunday, or whatever the weather is or what day or time of day it is wherever you are. :-)

Well here I am walking the court at the gym in preparation for another intense workout. I often wonder at this point what does the instructor have in store for us today. How much is this going to hurt? Lol
But then I remember why I am here, what I hope to achieve, and then the pain and discomfort of the next hour or so becomes bearable, even enjoyable. :-)

It hasn't always been like this, I remember when I first started I would struggle to keep up, everything seemed so hard and uncomfortable. I would be sore and ache for days following a class.
I really had to push myself through the discomfort and stretch myself beyond the pain barrier.
Now I love it, yes it still hurts and can be very uncomfortable, however, I've been through it and survived and now I know I can do it.

Sometimes all we have to do is push ourselves a little, get evidence of our own inner ability and strength.
Uncomfortable is resourceful, it means we are growing as a person.

I have also noticed and learned along my journey that the small steps in the beginning are the hardest. The first small steps challenge you, however, once you start doing it and you do it consistently it becomes your new normal and in fact the human body likes movement and challenge, and starts wanting more.

Comment below and tell me:
What have you been putting off or avoiding because it seems challenging and uncomfortable?

What would you like to start doing that would help you grow as a person?

Food for thought. :-)

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