13/05/2024
"Be aware 🙂 , that if you are only seeking status and recognition from others 😗, if you get it, you probably still won't be happy 🤓. Success with the approval of others , is inevitably hollow 😇. There needs to also be a bigger intrinsic motivation for true happiness and fulfillment to come 😊. That's why , you need to define success for yourself🥰. If you don't, Bollywood, the media, friends , family , colleagues , not to mention social media ; will define it for you. 😒 You'll see what looks like success, and you'll chase it😔. Then the goalpost will keep moving and you'll never feel that you are happy 🤓. If you can define success for yourself, and make that definition less focused on external measures ; like getting to a certain net worth, or being able to afford to travel in a plane everywhere you go ; but more on internal and higher level needs , such as helping others , putting a ding, in the universe with your impact, like Steve Jobs, then , that's something you'll have the power to achieve (whoever you are).👍 Make your criteria for success , process based, rather than outcome based. You can't control the outcome , because luck always plays a role. But you can control your own actions and processes to do the right thing in alignment with your values and goals.🙂 Beware of confusing society symbols of success, iphones, being a world tourist, designer clothes , fancy restaurants , exotic holidays and actual success , HAPPINESS , FULFILLMENT, SELF ACTUALIZATION, GROWTH , LEARNING, ADDING VALUE TO OTHERS, HAVING POSITIIVE IMPACT, HAVING THE FREEDOM TO SPENT QUALITY TIME WITH THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE . 🥹 This is easier said than done, however ,as long you think about it and bear it in mind you'll be inoculated against the worst of the negative emotions and cognitive dissonance of not getting to where you look upon ; or getting there and realizing you are still not happy. 😌 - Unfair advantage book (chapter 12)
