09/10/2024
When my boyfriend told me to get ready to meet his family, I was nervous. I am an Igbo girl while he's Yoruba and I was scared they weren't going to accept me because of my tribe.
Contrary to my fears, they loved me. When I went to the house, l wanted to kneel down to greet his parents but they asked me to stand up as they don’t do all that in their family.
I immediately clicked with his sister. I am 21 years old, a year older than her while the other sister is older and married. I exchanged contacts with his sister and we became close friends. I am an only child and it felt so good to have someone who felt like a sister to me. l would invite her to go out with me even without her brother and we would gist and
gossip about everything.
It feels like we have known each other for years. We were talking about a recent escapade of hers and she was telling me about how she had gone home with a guy friend of hers. They were both drunk and when they were about to do the do, he brought out his d*ck and it was too big so she left. I asked her to describe the size and I kid you not, she said and I quote; "It's like one and half the size of my brother's own. "She said laughing. My smile dropped immediately and I tried to process what I just had heard. She got a call just then and left. I spent the whole night trying to understand what l had heard. I tried convincing myself that he was her brother so at some point she must have seen his junk hence the statement.
I pushed this thought aside and tried to forget it. Last week, l went shopping and got some clothes for myself and her. I texted my boyfriend the next day to make sure she was home and then went over to their house to give the clothes to her.
I went to his room and she came inside to meet us. l handed over the clothes to her and she took them out of the bag to look at them.
She then said, "let me try them on "and without warning she took off her top. She was in her bra at this point and I looked at my boyfriend expecting him to stand up and leave but he just looked back at me for a brief second and focused back on his phone. phone. She took off her jeans next and she was left with her panties.
Still In a state of shock I watched her try on the clothes and after she was done, she kissed me on the cheek and left the room. I was stunned, turned and looked at my boyfriend asking him what just happened.
He asked me what was wrong and I shouted," your sister just took off her clothes in front of you and you didn't leave the room”.
He shrugged and said, "so? I wasn't even looking at her. She's my sibling. We see each other naked all the time there's nothing there." I got mad and left.
We had an argument that night and I told him how I felt it wasn't okay that his 20 years old sister who was fully developed was getting naked around him. He got mad and asked me to stop making something normal sound weird and that in their culture there is nothing bad there as siblings are free to walk naked around each other. He further chastised me for implying that he had any sexual tendencies towards his sister and that I was the one sexualizing it since they had never thought of something like that themselves.
I immediately apologized to him but to be honest I'm not still settled on this issue. I don't have siblings and we do not come from the same tribe. Please is this normal?
Their parents too see nothing wrong and I'm beginning to feel I'm overreacting but I can't shake off that feeling.
Please I need to hear the opinion of people with siblings, especially siblings of the opposite gender. Also is this something that is acceptable in the Yoruba culture. I am all for being open minded to other people's culture even if I don't understand it.
Am I overreacting?????
