02/14/2024
💜HEALING POWER of “radical acceptance” 💜
In relationships, radical acceptance means loving someone (including self) unconditionally for who they are, no matter what flaws or quirks they may have, in a non-judgmental way. It is important to note that radical acceptance does not mean accepting abuse, maltreatment, toxic relationships, or dangerous situations. Here are some ways to practice radical acceptance in your everyday life 💎.
💜 Catching your “shoulds,” “ought tos,” and “musts” embedded in thoughts and feelings that counter acceptance, such as “It’s not fair”; “It shouldn’t be this way”; and “I wish it were different.” But, rather, have acceptance of things as they are.
💜 Understanding what you can and cannot control in life.
💜 Internalizing that thoughts and feelings can’t be controlled no matter how hard we try to change, modify, or adjust them. Even if they can be temporarily contained, they eventually return.
💜 Taking a nonjudgmental stance. Notice your judgments because we all have them based on who we fundamentally are (e.g., race, religion, identity, family of origin). Challenge them and decide to act from a place of mindfulness and thoughtfulness.
💜 Avoiding labeling and quantifying people, situations, or emotions as “good,” “bad,” “right,” “wrong,” etc.
💜 Looking at “just the facts” of the situation (i.e., sifting out the add-ons derived from your thoughts, feelings, and experiences).
💜 Acknowledging your situation and the thoughts and feelings attached to them (for better or worse).
💜 Letting go, and not fighting against reality (i.e., thus leading to distress).