09/10/2026
I spent the first 5–7 years of my career constantly trying to motivate kids with the idea of winning state championships, titles, and accolades.
When I shifted my focus from winning to effort, performance, and relationships, that’s when we actually started winning.
It’s kind of ironic—when I stopped worrying about our results, the results improved and took care of themselves.
If you’re competitive and truly care about winning, stop talking about it and start focusing on the aspects of performance that actually lead to winning. The deeper your relationship with an athlete grows, the more they will trust you and show up to put in the time and effort it takes to become great.
Coaches: Quit worrying about winning. Enjoy the time you get to spend with the kids. At the end of the day, that’s the real reward.
Athletes: Express gratitude for the adults and teammates who make your journey possible. Fifty years from now, you probably won’t remember or care about the titles you won. It’s the relationships that will actually matter.