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08/17/2026

Why anticipation deserves a place in a lasting relationshipThere is a question I wish more couples asked each other, especially couples who have been together a long time: What are we looking forward to together?Not what needs to be fixed. Not what is on the calendar because somebody has to do it. N...

12/15/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/from-holiday-stress-to-holiday-connection-protecting-your-relationship-in-a-busy-season

I am standing with Al in the middle of Covent Garden at 8 oclock at night. Throngs of people, Christmas caroler’s and street performs fill the streets. The giant Decorated Christmas Tree has hundreds of multicolored lights which is a spectacle in and of itself. All the buildings around Covent Gard...

12/11/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/holiday-rituals-for-two-creating-traditions-that-actually-fit-your-life

My Husband And I just got back from a city bus tour to see the London Christmas Lights. Luckily the rain held off since we sere sitting on an open the upper deck of an open air bus The city is covered in lights. Shop windows are trying very hard to convince us that everyone else has the perfect fami...

12/04/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/you-won-t-find-love-on-an-app

How s*x apps keep us busy and what actually builds loveI am in my office doing last minute work before we jet off to london. It has been interesting that the last client who just left said "what I have heard from so many gay men over the years. “I am on the apps all the time. I get plenty of s*x. ...

11/27/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/rewriting-the-script-creating-your-own-holiday-traditions-as-a-gay-couple

Setting the sceneI am in Palm Springs, staring at a store aisle at Home Depot that looks like the holidays exploded. Glitter on the floor, plastic reindeer, a woman arguing with her partner about which wrapping paper is more festive. I can almost hear my clients in the background saying what they al...

11/22/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/holiday-rituals-that-actually-bring-you-closer-instead-of-driving-you-nuts

Setting the sceneI am starting to pull out all the decorations from their storage place to begin the process of putting up the Christmas tree, decorating it, and starting to plan our annual chocolate making for holiday gifts. I already have a commitment to make three apple pies for the thanksgiving....

11/16/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/shame-out-of-the-bedroom

How gay men turn shame on each other and how to stop itIts my last day in London and the holiday excitement is beginning to set into this beautiful city. Holiday lights are starting to turn on across town, They say at the holiday time London can be one of the most beautiful cities to visit because o...

11/09/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/love-actually-and-imperfectly-what-the-holidays-reveal-about-our-relationships

I am back in London this week, tucked beside a fogged window in a Soho café, watching people dodge puddles and armfuls of shopping bags. London in December is a little sentimental and a little chaotic. Lights are strung across narrow streets. A busker is trying out carols that are not quite in tune...

11/05/2025

https://www.drstevemay.com/post/desire-does-not-retire

Touch, aging, and body confidence for gay male couplesI am going to be 75 in a few months and Al, my husband, is 81. The plumbing just doesn’t work the way it did when we were 23 and 29 when we first met. It’s easy for each of us to get caught up when we look in the mirror and think “where did...