Still Mind Club

10/07/2026

Daydreaming is the window seat.
Rehearsing is the driver's seat.

One lets your thoughts drift past. The other points them somewhere on purpose.

Next time your head gets busy before a big talk, notice which seat you're in.

The Psychology of Rehearsal is an ebook about the quiet science behind human conversation. Link in bio.

10/07/2026

Actor. Director. Audience of one.

That's you at 11 p.m., running tomorrow's conversation one more time. No script, no stage, just a very busy head.

The Psychology of Rehearsal: Why We Practice Conversations in Our Heads is available now. Link in bio.

10/07/2026

You said it perfectly in the shower.
Then again on the walk home.
Then once more, right before you walked in.

Nobody saw any of it. It all happened in the quiet of your own head.

These slides are from Chapter 1 of The Psychology of Rehearsal: Why We Practice Conversations in Our Heads. Link in bio.

10/07/2026

That quiet practice run in your head is something almost everyone does.

This is an excerpt from Chapter 1 of The Psychology of Rehearsal: Why We Practice Conversations in Our Heads.

Read the full ebook. Link in bio.

10/03/2026

You've probably had this conversation before. In your head.

You picture what you'll say. You guess how they'll answer. Then you try a different line.

It's not a flaw. It's your brain practicing. Almost everyone does it, from kids planning how to ask for screen time to adults getting ready for a hard talk.

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09/30/2026

A surprisingly productive question to ask yourself before rehearsing a difficult conversation:

"What am I trying to accomplish with this rehearsal?"

Depending on your answer, you might find yourself engaged in an entirely different kind of mental activity.

For instance, if you say to yourself, "I want to clarify my main point,"

you're pursuing a specific goal.

But if you find yourself saying, "I want to make sure nothing unexpected happens,"

you're engaging in an entirely different kind of rehearsal.

The difference between these two kinds of mental activity is explored in The Psychology of Rehearsal.

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09/30/2026

Discover how to stop searching for what went wrong and start finding what's next. This book offers practical tools to understand self-blame, break cognitive traps, and find peace.

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When something goes wrong and the outcome is uncertain, it's common to keep searching for the one thing you did wrong. The Mistake You Keep Looking For explains how uncertainty leads to self-blame, perfectionism, hindsight bias and overthinking. It a...

09/16/2026

You just pulled in, and you’re still sitting there.

You’re not decompressing. You’re delaying the door, the phone, and the next twenty five minutes of being fine for someone. The car is the one room nobody else gets to walk into. No knocking, no small talk, no version of you required.

Tell me how long you sat there today.

09/16/2026

Four honest habits for showing up as yourself instead of the version everyone expects. Save this for the next time you forget. 🌿